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December 6, 2018

Andi—Off the Mat

Andi’s email to me is entitled “Support, Insight, and Catharsis” and in the body she tells me that she has a hard time getting out of her head when it comes to her relationship with her fiancé Rob. Her head is a place of insecurity, of seeking perfection in herself and sabotaging her own happiness. Read more >

September 16, 2018

This Too Shall Pass….

A few weeks ago, I completed my final interview for the book I am writing.  I was feeling like I had just wrapped up the most transformative year of my life.  I felt changed and accomplished and happy and hopeful.  I felt like I had finally gotten my shit together.  So then of course the Universe said Oh Read more >

July 30, 2018

The Intimacy Interviews….A Year Later

A year ago I published a letter on this blog.  I want us to talk, I said.  The responses started coming in droves, their content as varied as the women sending them.  And it appeared I had a project on my hands.  And so I began interviewing and I began writing. It all started with Read more >

February 17, 2018

By the Way, I Forgive You

A few weeks ago my feet started itching from staying in the same place for too long; my gypsy soul started stirring so fast that I could not longer quiet her down.  And so I made plans to take a short trip down to Charleston, SC to do an interview for my project.   After conducting Read more >

December 8, 2017

In Which I Invoke the River Goddess

This time of a year is when my extrovert and introvert tendencies declare war on each other.  My introvert self wants to hibernate on the couch under blankets with a good book and watch as the night descends early; keeping myself safe from cold and dark and Christmas music.  My extrovert self wonders what all Read more >

November 17, 2017

On Being Vulnerable

I spoke  with someone about vulnerability yesterday.  And they spoke to me of intimacy.  And it turns out these things are two threads wound together.  We find intimacy when we are able to be vulnerable.  And we are vulnerable when we admit that we might not have it all together.  So I’ve been doing this Read more >

September 25, 2017

Hummingbirds and Online Dating

Today I went to go make an appointment to get my next tattoo.  And they were closed.  But that’s not the point.  I’ve got this super special design in mind and I’m finally ready to commit it to skin.  And it’s been long enough since my last tattoo that I’ve distanced in my mind how Read more >

August 31, 2017

This Song is the Thread That Holds the Story Together

Music feeds my soul and is an absolutely crucial part of my life.  I don’t sing in a band; although I do think that being a front woman in a band was a calling in another life.  But I don’t really know who I would be without my love of rhythm and lyrics and song.  Read more >

August 23, 2017

And So It Begins….

I just celebrated my 39th birthday.  It was a hard one to swallow, the final year of my 30’s.  From talking to friends, I know that I am not alone.  There’s different ways of coping.  And mine is to declare celibacy for a year and attempt to write a book.  Which is kind of funny to think Read more >

July 19, 2017

The Intimacy Interviews

To all of the women reading this: I want us to talk. I mean like really, really talk. I want us to talk about the thing that tends to be our downfall and our salvation. That’s right…I want to talk about romantic love and intimacy and passion and heartbreak and all of the little things Read more >