I was born in Huntington, West Virginia, as an only child and a Leo. And so begins what would be a life of fierce independence and stubborn tenacity.
Published my first piece of writing. I teamed up with a couple of neighborhood friends to put out the first and only edition of Petlover’s Magazine, in which I wrote a compelling article about how to housetrain a puppy. It was also around this time that I decided I wanted to be a marine biologist.
My high school years were filled with a lot of really angsty poetry. Still determined to be a marine biologist (or maybe this was a ploy to move to the beach all along), I took advanced science classes and graduated third in my class.
Graduated UNC-Wilmington with a degree in Marine Biology and a minor in Chemistry. Accepted an offer to move to Bermuda for the summer after college to attend the Bermuda Biological Station for Research. So that was awesome.
Completed Masters’ degree at UNC-Wilmington. Published my thesis which was titled “The Production of Hydrogen Peroxide by Heterosigma akashiwo Under Varying N:P Ratios.” The thesis was just as boring as it sounds and technical writing absolutely killed my creative writing for a long while.
Met a handsome ski patroller and shucked the whole marine science thing and moved to Aspen, Colorado. Got a couple jobs working in a ski shop and waitressing at the internationally famous Red Onion.
I was married and working in a bank and living in a ski town. And I didn’t really recognize who I had become. One day I went to the mailbox and found a course catalog for the local community college. I told myself that something in that catalog would speak to me and tell me the next step. I opened the page to a fiction writing class. I took the class and started writing a novel.
As part of the Aspen Writers Festival, I paid for the chance to meet with literary agents and editors to shop my novel. They all wanted to talk about what it was like to actually live in Aspen. I scrapped the novel and started writing a non-fiction book about working in the service industry catering to the rich and famous. Never ended up finishing that book either.
Got divorced and moved back home to West Virginia. Started a blog and wrote about getting divorced and moving back home.
Went to Costa Rica for a month to get certified to teach yoga. That was pretty awesome too.
Still writing, still waitressing, and still teaching yoga. Meanwhile, my love life is a series of wrong turns and heartbreaks since the divorce. People started asking me when I was going to write my book. I jokingly answered to some of them that I should write about all of the wrong turns and heartbreaks in my love life.
The idea of The Intimacy Interviews floats into my head one day while I’m driving. I posted a letter looking for women willing to be interviewed and talk to me about love, intimacy, and relationships.
August 2017-August 2018
Spent the year interviewing women about love, intimacy, and relationships. I traveled to Ohio, Kentucky, Pennsylvania, North Carolina, South Carolina, California, Montana, and Hawaii conducting these interviews. I turned 40. I finally felt like I was starting to get my shit together. When, really, now I can see that all along the road was leading me right here.
Self-published my first book, The Intimacy Interviews. I’m naked on the cover. My mom is not thrilled about this.